Relationship Expert Van Moody Offers Dating Advice to Scandal’s Olivia Pope

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Relationship Expert Van Moody Offers Dating Advice to Scandal’s Olivia Pope

By Van Moody

View More: http://eqsphotography.pass.us/pas-high-resolutionThursday’s winter finale of ABC’s hit drama Scandal promises “things will never be the same,” with another addictive episode with a near-lethal dose of murder, passion, intrigue, deceit, betrayal and retaliation. The show has received critical acclaim for its ripped-from-the-headlines storylines, fast-paced dialogue and dizzying interpersonal dynamics. It has earned its “crazytwistygood” hashtag. For 2-1/2 seasons, week after week, show creator Shonda Rhimes unravels tightly-woven tales that have viewers on the edge of their seats and set Twitter feeds ablaze. The cast even joins live chats with viewers on both the East and West coasts. It is a loyal, sacred relationship that provokes critical commentary on the tension between passion and principles, and the ways in which we lobby for, leverage and lose power in our own relationships.

Olivia Pope’s on-again off-again relationship with the very-married President Fitzgerald Grant has triggered debates about the relationship issues that many people face in their personal lives. Despite her keen sense of political strategy and cunning “sixth sense” about her clients’ guilt or innocence, she is the poster child for toxic relationships: clandestine trysts with both President Grant and Jake Ballard; dysfunctional Sunday dinners with her Dad (the head of the secret counterterrorism unit B613); and her cool, calculating exchanges with her Mom (a suspected terrorist), all while leading a team of miscreant Gladiators on their own self-styled crusades for justice.

While we all want to enjoy rewarding connections with others, it becomes essential to evaluate your relationships intelligently: What makes a great relationship? How do you keep a relationship great? What are the warning signs of trouble? While it’s so very easy to blame the other person in a distressed relationship, it’s far more effective to consider and assess the situation objectively and build your Relational IQ.

While I don’t suggest or propose to solve all of her problems, let’s look at the major signs that The People Factor cover mediunsuggest it is time for you to end a toxic relationship. It might be a good time to end a relationship when someone can’t:

  • Accept a change of status in status of your personal or professional life
  • Accept that you’re ready to move on – without them
  • Accept that you do not believe the myth you’ve created about your future

Because there are no neutral relationships – they either move you forward or hold you back – here are some principles to consider – based on my new book The People Factor – that I suggest Olivia Pope, our fictional fixer and so many other women and men tethered to sticky situations should do right now:

  • Be clear about her own life’s journey and what you want in your relationship(s)
  • Don’t get caught up in the blame game
  • Be clear about your goals – personally and professionally
  • Be brutally honest
  • Be open to reconciliation, while not putting yourself or the other person in a holding pattern
  • Recognize that the most valuable people in your life may not be the most visible

Relationships are an art, and most of us lack the skill and mastery to help break—or all together avoid—destructive patterns, disrespect, and deception. Far too many people also lack the ability to have productive connections with others—those that help you achieve goals, sharpen your mind, and generally uplift and enrich your life. Only by cultivating your Relational IQ –knowing which is which and how to turn the tide on those that are negative – can you then take the appropriate action. Not to be taken lightly, these actions and decisions can make the difference between a great, happy life, and one that is riddled with disappointment, failure and regret.

Field expert Van Moody is the author of The People Factor (an upcoming release by publisher Thomas Nelson) and a motivational speaker who advises on matters related to relationships as they pertain to friends, family, significant others and the workplace. He is a “People Scholar” who helps others build their “Relational IQ” to achieve success at home, in their social circles, and in business. He may be reached online at www.vanmoody.com.


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Birmingham Author, “People Scholar” Says It’s Time to Tackle Toxic Relationships

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Pastor Van Moody serves on the board of directors of Joel Osteen’s Champion’s Network

(DALLAS – December 3) Birmingham minister, author and motivational speaker Van Moody says this is the time of the year to find out which relationships are worth keeping, worth changing or ending.

“Relationships either lift you up or weigh you down,” said Moody, author of “THE PEOPLE FACTOR”, a new book that offers insightful advice on building great relationships and ending bad ones. “In light of this universal truth, it’s absolutely critical that you know two things: how much you need to invest in a relationship and which ones must come to an end.

Throughout the pages of “The People Factor,” (paperback, ISBN: 9781400205028, $16.99 U.S.) Moody lays out the steps to building and maintaining genuine, authentic relationships – and how to end toxic relationships.   In a flowing, engaging, attention grabbing style, he provides a beyond-the-basics guide for the critical task of evaluating our relationships intelligently and taking decisive action in kind. Take a look at this video that will give you a preview of the book, and Moody’s approach to this sensitive issue: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=03F-FjsDsbY

Moody, who travels the world teaching people how to raise their relational IQ, offers a basic framework for individuals to evaluate their relationships.  As a people scholar, Moody says most people tend to avoid dealing with relationships – good and bad.  Based on his research over the years, he is available for interviews, seminars and speaking engagements to discuss any of the following topics:

  • Is helping you hurting me? How to know
  • How to have healthy relationships with unhealthy people
  • Sure-fire signs of a toxic relationship
  • Essential elements of a successful relationship
  • ‘Relationship boundaries’: why they’re needed and how to set them
  • Signs a relationship is heading south
  • Exit strategy: when and how to end an unhealthy relationship
  • 5 fundamentals of a constructive relational transition

Field expert Van Moody is an author, motivational speaker and media expert source who advises on matters related to relationships as they pertain to friends, family, significant others and the workplace. Moody is an associate trainer in Japan for EQUIP, the world’s largest and most comprehensive grassroots leadership, personal growth and development organization founded by Dr. John C. Maxwell.  He also serves on the board of directors for Joel Osteen’s Champions Network.  Moody earned a B.A. from DePauw University and has lectured in the classrooms of Harvard and Oxford Universities where he, himself, has also studied to further his quest for knowledge in business, economic and community Development.  Moody and his wife reside in Birmingham, Alabama with their two children. Learn more online at www.vanmoody.com.

To book Van Moody, you can contact Neil Foote, neil@neilfoote.com, 214.448.3765


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